Do you lack self esteem or confidence? A report by NBC shockingly found that it affects up to 85% of us. While either can be challenging to deal with, the good news is that self esteem and confidence are simply states of mind. That means we have the power to improve our self esteem just by changing our perception.
In today’s post I am going to be sharing with you a valuable exercise that will help you boost your self esteem. This exercise can help you gain a new perspective on your situation and generate the emotional state you need, whether that’s self-esteem, confidence, or courage.
Here’s everything you need to know, including an overview of how low self esteem typically presents itself.
Low Self Esteem Symptoms
When it comes to having a lack of self esteem, every person is different. However, there are some main symptoms that resonate with most people. Low self esteem mainly centres on a lack of belief in yourself. A common setting for this is at work when a person doesn’t believe they are worthy of getting the job in an interview or going for a promotion – even though they might be the best person for the role. They lack the confidence to recognise their abilities and only focus on the negative. In their minds, they are simply not worthy of accolades. Those with low self esteem cannot accept positive feedback and do not truly value themselves.
Low Self Esteem Exercise
First you need to get yourself in a calm and relaxing state. I then want you to think about a challenging situation you are facing or a change you want to make in your life. Now picture a circle on the floor just in front of you. Next to the circle is 3 people that love you and can support you. Have them all stand next to you so you leave the circle in front of you empty.
Imagine yourself stepping into the circle with the first mentor. What words of support would the mentor say to you about your current challenges? What resources does that mentor have that they could share with you to help you?
Now step into the circle and bring a different mentor with you, along with their words of wisdom and resources. Repeat the process but this time replace your mentor with your third mentor. Imagine what each mentor would say to you to support you.
Once you’ve finished the process, your circle will be full of messages of support and internal resources such as self esteem and confidence you are ‘channelling’ from your mentors. If it helps, you can imagine them placing their hands on your shoulders as an expression of unity and strength.
Now think about your challenge or the thing you want to change. Feel the strength and the resources you now have in facing this challenge. You’re more robust and ready to go!
To Sum Up
The great thing about this exercise is that you can use it whenever you need to. You don’t have to go through all the steps, but you can imagine and call in your mentor or mentors when you need them to help you grow your own resources!
Using your imagination in this way forces you to shift your perspective, and you may just come up with some useful insights. There doesn’t have to be anything mystical or ‘woo-woo’ about it. At its simplest all this technique does is allow you to stand in someone else’s shoes for a moment, and from that vantage point you may see a way forward that you couldn’t see before. It can be a very powerful and easy way to get past negativity and fear.
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